"The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself." - Ecclesiastes 10:12
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
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I think I already know the three things hehe but I'll try to behave :)
ReplyDeleteAs a warning, it has been my experience that this is not a good idea. My best friend, and I mean BEST friend, in high school asked me this question and we have not had the same relationship since. It has been almost ten years.
ReplyDeleteWhat if one of the things is something you can't change? What if you say three things and they can't think of three? What if one of the things is just who you are? Do you really want your spouse to point out your imperfections? When you love someone, you love all of them and you don't try to change them. This is an exercise in trying to change each other.
You can tell yourself you will not get upset or justify your behavior but you have no idea what they are going to say.
This is just my experience and opinion so take it how you will.
Hey Chelsea,
ReplyDeleteI totally respect your opinion on this and don't necessarily view it that way. I mean, I TOTALLY get what you are saying, and yes, it can most definitely be taken that way, but I guess for my particular relationship I'm not worried about it because I myself know there are a lot of things that I need to change not only to have a better relationship with my husband but to just be happier in general!...I personally think that whoever is doing this challenge, if you have a good relationship with your spouse and you really know each other, they're not gonna come out and tell you something they don't like that they KNOW you can't change....Sorry if that doesn't make sense lol. It does in my head!!....Ryan and I already had our discussion on this today, and honestly, according to him, he could only come up with 2 of the 3 things, 1 of them I've already been well aware of (which I will post about later) and have really been wanting to change, and the 2nd one really didn't have anything to do with our relationship lol...I guess for me I really didn't take this challenge in the way you view it because I actually have always asked Ryan this question...not necessarily "what 3 things do I do that you dislike?" or whatever, but I do ask him if there's anything I do or say that upsets him...But like I said, this is just MY personal relationship with my husband and I know everyone's is different!!